Dealing with lonely emotions and feeling connected
Beautiful, helpful, useful article!
So much good stuff! Two things strike me:
1) have you ever explored Esther Perel's work? I believe her and Alain de Botton did a riveting bit about the relatively new culture of intimacy and how romantic love has conditioned us into believing that there's only one person out there who's supposed to be our everything, when for much of human existence, we all had different roles and places where we expressed various needs... Very aligned toward your Swiss Army Knife. Anyway, she's fantastic.
2) Alienation: I've experienced this more as ostracization. I think I'll be in group alignment only to find myself shunned by the group for gently, but firmly, bringing up alternate scenarios for consideration. Then I find myself getting a pile on of how mistaken and wrong I am. In healthier groups, nudging and curiosity are more supported AND reciprocal. It occurs to me that there's just not a lot of places where people get practice deviating or speaking up that feel safe.
For what it's worth, I've never thought you need to sell yourself better. I hear your self deprecating humor and relate (but yeah, is that us selling ourselves short?) But also coming to the theory, the parts of me that have been shouting "yo! You are a fantastic being! The more fantastic you are the more it brings out the glimmer in others!" have felt at "home" so this all tracks!
It takes a bit to settle in and get comfy in new ways with ourselves ❤️