In Episode 15, Chris and Emma were joined by Melissa Bernstein, co-founder of Melissa & Doug Toys and author of LifeLines. We learned about Melissa’s inspirational journey to self-acceptance and living authentically after spending decades of her life suffering from existential depression and angst.
Melissa discovered Dąbrowski’s theory in her late 40s and described the relief she felt from learning about overexcitabilities as a framework for understanding her lifelong intensity and sensitivities. She described reading Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning and learning the word “existential” for the first time, and feeling that it was like being hit by a lightning bolt.
Melissa talked about her path, which started out traditionally with therapy and grew to include autopsychotherapy and deep exploration into philosophical and spiritual works. We discuss strategies she has developed to challenge negativity and nihilism, and combat perfectionism, such as channeling darkness into light through her creative work. We also explore how sharing our creative outputs with others can help us find meaning and purpose, and the importance of taking time out to look after ourselves.
Resources mentioned in this episode
LifeLines website
Melissa’s book LifeLines on Amazon
The LifeLines workshop videos Chris mentioned watching in spring 2021.
LifeLines Community Facebook group
The Melissa & Doug website
Listen to Melissa’s episode on The Good Life Project Podcast
Emma’s blog on Self Care
Click here for the playlist of videos from the 2022 Dabrowski Congress in Denver.
Transcript is available on the Dabrowski Center website
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